Embracing That Inevitability Called Destiny

Call it inescapable, inevitable, inexorable, fate, luck or misfortune, chance. How many ways can you call destiny? An ancient legend says that our destiny is already written before we are born and will guide our whole life; if this is true it has a strange way of doing things.

Yes because I have noticed that when there have been big changes in our lives, what started it all was a moment, a single moment, which in the light of later could be avoided or confirmed depending on whether the change was for the better or for the worse.
Sometimes a fortuitous coincidence, brought us together with a person who changed our lives.

It may have been a small delay on a streetcar or train schedule, or even a sudden desire for ice cream on a hot summer. To have looked up a moment earlier or a moment later, nothing would have happened. Instead, that very moment caused two glances to meet.

But it's not just a matter of affairs of the heart, destiny also puts its hand in everything else: for example, it didn't ring the alarm clock at we were late for a job interview, or an accident between two trucks on the highway caused us to miss the medical college entrance test, radically changing the expectations you had, maybe not for the worse, but maybe so.

And have you ever thought that behind that moment not only your life changed, but also the lives of some of the people you are close to? Maybe someone would never have been born, maybe someone would have been divorced, maybe someone else would have gone to live far away.

Yes because as things change for us automatically, they automatically change for others as well. And often it is our decisions that change the lives of others, just as the decisions of others change our own.

What an interweaving of destinies our lives are, and not only for us or those we are close to, but somehow we can influence even people we do not know and will never know. To give an example, I was in a job for about 10 years. For example getting a job that really saved us at that time.

A complete stranger might have a car accident with the person who had that job before me. And who knows maybe even I unknowingly maybe changed some stranger's life in some dark and strange way.

I am convinced that all it takes is nothing. Forgetting the cell phone at home and going back to get it; this fact who knows maybe it could change something, a small thing, or was that why we were not involved in a big accident, with deaths and injuries. I think each one of us has thought at least once that it could have happened to us if...

If you go deeper into the meaning of destiny, you find that some people don't believe it. They say that we are the architects of our own. It is likely that they are partly right but I think only partly. In fact, if we think about our current life, we can certainly decide, if we are not satisfied, to change something.

But this in my opinion is a rational choice. I think we all try to live our lives to the best of our ability, aware of the fact that we have this one and that one and that the past time does not come back.

And many choices we make in our lives, big and small, are made to try to be better, to improve, to be happy. Unfortunately, choices sometimes then turn into mistakes, but I am convinced that when we made that choice, we were convinced that we were doing our best.

Mistakes unfortunately can only be seen later, if there were any. Never truer is the saying “hindsight is full of the pits.” These are digressions so let us return to the concept of destiny.

There are still those who think that it is really fate that decides our lives and that everything depends on a higher force that has already written our destiny and that we are free to choose only the little things in life but not the decisive choices.

This is not entirely true either. Our life is a mixture of all these things. There are people who believe that everything is absolutely causal, that we live at the mercy of chaos without meaning or control. This is not entirely true either. In my opinion, destiny is a part of our decisions, a part of other people's decisions, and again, completely random facts.

And in my opinion, the concept of destiny is precisely that of completely random facts, which led to making decisions that changed our lives in some way, or that changed the lives of people close to us while also affecting our own.

I would just be curious, as I think you would also be curious about how our lives would have turned out if we had not made that choice or choices. Where we would be now, with whom, whether we would be happy or not, what life we would lead.

But unfortunately, it is not given to us to know and we have to make do with what we have right now, trying not to carry the past with us, which, as the word itself says, is now in the past and can no longer be changed.

And so we welcome that saying “let's live in the present” because it is the only moment we have, good or bad, hoping that destiny will bring us a happier tomorrow.